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Are you asking yourself: “Why is my ex ignoring me?”
Do you wonder why, after all you've been through together, he/she can't even give you the respect to say “hi” to you anymore?
Are you sick of the stress and sleepless nights that he/she's putting you through?
If so, keep reading, because I may have a solution for you.
One of the reasons he's ignoring you may be because he's seeing someone else.
You need to rule that out first.
To find out, I recommend using this online background checker that private investigators use to find out where he's been, discover any secret dating profiles he may have, and even who he's been hanging out with frequently lately.
This will give you a good idea and allow you to rule out whether he's seeing someone else or not. This is absolutely critical to rule out first.
Simply enter his name and other details and the information that comes back may surprise you.
Some women actually discovered that their boyfriend was actually already married through this tool!
How crazy is that?!
Once you've ruled this out you can move onto the next step and investigate some other reasons he may be ignoring you.
Other Reasons Why He May Be Ignoring You
There is nothing worse than being ignored, especially when you have feelings for that someone. There are many reasons why your ex may be ignoring you and you need to consider them all before you get yourself upset or angry.
If you have made the first contact after the break up but he hasn’t responded with even a rejection then it can be highly frustrating. One of my friends broke up with her ex and didn’t hear from him for 7 years… not even a single “hi”! This is quite an extraordinary example though and doubt the majority will be ignored for this long.
Again, there could be many reasons why he is ignoring you so instead of driving yourself mad trying to wonder why, here are a few reasons why:
He Still Has Feelings For You
Many women automatically believe that an ex ignoring them means it is because of something bad when that isn’t always the case. It may be surprising to you but your ex may be ignoring you because he actually still cares for you and has feelings for you.
Breaking up with someone is a highly emotional roller coaster full of confusing emotions as you know yourself as you’re going through it yourself. Everyone reacts to breakups differently though and him ignoring you may be a way for him to heal from the breakup.
While you may be ready to start talking again, he might not. He made need more time to get over it and heal before he can be ready to talk. In this instance it is important to not make this about you. It is clear that he still has hurt feelings and ignoring you is a way for him to keep his head clear to be able to think clearly.
The best thing you could possibly do in this instance is absolutely nothing. Don’t attempt to text or call him or even like or comment on any of his social statuses. Give his the space that he needs so he can heal properly. When he is ready to talk, he will let you know by either texting you, calling you or even commenting on your social post.
He Is Playing Games
I would love to stay on the subject of all things positive however there are a few negative reasons why your ex is ignoring you that you must know about. One of those reasons is that he is playing a games and not a very nice one.
This is more applicable if your ex has always been a bit of a manipulator and likes to play mind games. If your ex has never really been a manipulator then this reason probably doesn’t apply to you because it is not a trait they would take on out of the blue.
My girlfriend I was telling you about earlier, her man is very much a manipulator and even made her start to dislike a friend she has known almost her whole life because he didn’t like her. This is really upsetting to me as she truly deserves someone that would take care of her and love her wholeheartedly.
For some reason though she loves this guy and who am I to say otherwise or object. When they go through their break ups though, he goes completely silent. He does this because he knows she will text and call him until he answers and then she is the one to apologize first.
This is until last time they broke up though when I told her that she should ‘give him space’ to calm down. She followed my advice and just like clockwork, he made the first approach after just a few days. As I am writing this now, she has broken up with him again… I told you it is hard to keep up with them.
He Has Moved On
This is probably the one that you most don’t want to hear. Unfortunately, if your ex is ignoring you then he may have moved on. As much as you might not want to hear it, it is important that you come to terms with it. The sooner you can do this, the sooner you can get yourself motivated to focus on yourself and find a man that is wholeheartedly into you.
You cannot blame him for moving on as we all need to find out one true love and if he feels that it is you then at least he has been honest and not cheated on you. He may very well be ignoring you not out of spite but because he doesn’t want to disrespect his new girlfriend or the woman he is dating.
If your ex has moved then the best thing you can do is to move on too. Treat yourself to a much needed girls night out and go and have fun. You never know, you might your one true love when you’re out.
He Is Punishing You
If you break up was on fairly bad terms and you said some harsh words to each other that you might not have necessarily meant then he may very well be ignoring you out of spite to punish you. I’m sure you’ll agree that this is a bit of a childish approach to a break up but a lot of men will actually do this so it is possible that you ex is doing this too.
This is especially applicable to your ex if he tends to always want things his own in the relationship. When you were together and he would give you the silent treatment or would pull a face until he got his own way then this could definitely be something he is doing in the break up.
The best thing you can do at this point is to stop texting him. If you have tried and he is ignoring you then you have tried, what more can you possibly do?
A hopeless romantic that struggled for many years to find her Mr “Right” and made all the mistakes you could think of while dating. Known for always choosing the wrong guys or messing up relationships, Sonya was finally able to change her approach and mindset when it came to dating which helped her eventually find the man of her dreams and become happily married. You can read more about me here…