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Have you ever noticed that the men who complain the most about women playing “mind games” are the SAME people who play those games the most often? Men play mind games with women because they ultimately want control. If you’re playing along with his mind games and you’re always in the loser’s side, your man is dominating your mind.But why do men so desperately want control over what we think?
My personal experience has been that men play mind games when they’re hiding something and they don’t want us to know about it. It’s in a man’s best interest to keep his woman in the dark so that he can have his cake and eat it too. And sometimes, that “cake” is another woman who he is seeing behind your back. If it’s not another woman, it’s something that could lead to you breaking up with him if you ever found out what it was. The best way to figure out what’s really going on is to quickly put his name in a background checker like this that instantly tells you everything that needs to know.
It’s almost like having your own personal private investigator, except it’s just a click away!You may be shocked the results you get. Your man might not be seeing one women, but possibly MULTIPLE women at the same time. If that’s the case, wouldn’t you want those other women to know the truth? But if none of that is true, and your man is just acting suspicious, there may be some deep-rooted insecurity or ego that he’s scared of being exposed in the open. It’s about time that you figured out how to beat your man at his own mind games!
Once you've ruled out that there's actually not something more sinister behind the mind games he's playing with you, it's time to move on to the next step.
Why Men Play Mind Games?
- 1 Why Men Play Mind Games?
- 2 What Mind Games Do They Play
- 3 How Do You Beat Them At Their Mind Games
Mind games is something men have been using since the start of time however they were used to win wars and build empires and not to play with their girlfriends heads. Unfortunately this is a common occurrence that we women have to now deal with. In this blog post I’m going to explain why men play mind games, what some of these mind games are and how to beat them at it.
Before I get onto the juicy bit of how to beat them at these mind games, you need to understand why men play these mind games. Once you can understand why your man is doing it, you will be able to better judge how to see through it. Here are a few reasons why he could be playing mind games with you.
They Like To Stroke Their Ego
One of the main reasons why men play mind games is because they feel the need to stroke their own ego. They need to feel that they are wanted and adored and so will get what they want by playing mind games with women. This also gives them a sense of power.
They Have A Feeling Of Discontent
Sometimes men can feel that they have no control over some things in their life and so might turn to playing mind games with women to fill this gap. This is a very selfish trait for any man and can really hurt your feelings.
They Want To Give Themselves A Test
Some men like to test themselves to see if they are capable of attracting women. They won’t care about women’s feelings or the consequences of their actions, they will just think about how many women they can attract.
They Love A Challenge
It is in men’s nature to want to hunt and chase which is why when a girl shows no interest, they start on a mission to conquer. Instead of chasing her because they care for her, they will chase just because it is a challenge that they want to prove they can accomplish.
They Want To Be The Alpha
This is a particular trait of men who have come from an old fashioned style family where the man is the alpha. If this is the case then they will assert their authority and dominate the relationship to establish them as the alpha.
They Are Gold Diggers
This may sound like a strange one but being a gold digger doesn’t just mean to take money from someone. He could be interested in you because of the car you own or the apartment you own and not because of you as a person.
They Just Want One Thing
Let’s face it, one of the biggest reasons why men play mind games is because they are after one thing and one thing only… sex! Instead of sex being something of sentiment, they see it as a prize that they must have not matter who it is with.
What Mind Games Do They Play
Now you have an idea as to why men play mind games, it is also important to know some of the mind games that they play. I have listed some of the most common mind games that men tend to play.
They Make You Feel Guilty
One of the most common mind games that men tend to use is the guilt trip. They will make you feel bad for not doing something that they want you to do. This could be something such as not lending him your car or it could be not having sex with him.
It Becomes Your Fault
Another mind game they tend to play is making you feel like something is your fault when it is not. They could have done something wrong which you have brought up but they somehow turn this around so that it becomes your fault.
With men who have a gold digging nature, they will tend to get what they want from you by promising they will you it back or something else in return. He could get you to lend him money in the promise that he’ll give it back but has no intention of doing so.
They Act As The Perfect Date
Many women want to find their prince charming which is why it can be their greatest weakness. Men know this and will act like the perfect date and your prince charming so they can get what they want which is most likely sex.
He Is Inattentive
They know that if they ignore you then you will come chasing. If you fall into this trap they he will have the upper hand and will know it. He will feel like he has all the control which will in turn, stroke his ego.
How Do You Beat Them At Their Mind Games
Now that you know why some men play mind games and what mind games they play, it is time for the juicy bit… how to beat them at these mind games. You don’t have to stoop down to their level but to do these simple things.
Go With Your Instinct
If your instinct is telling you that he is playing mind games then listen to it. There is no better way to beat him than to listen to what your own instinct is telling you… walk away!
The women that tend to be victims of these mind games are women who are vulnerable. Work on your confidence and build your self-esteem to avoid being a target of these mind games.
Don’t Become Complacent
Never ever think that it is funny that he plays these mind games and become complacent to them. It isn’t a quality that someone who truly cares for you would have.
Call Him Out On It
If you know that he is playing mind games then call him out on it. If he tries to make you feel bad for doing this or tries turning it around on you then he is still playing mind games.
A hopeless romantic that struggled for many years to find her Mr “Right” and made all the mistakes you could think of while dating. Known for always choosing the wrong guys or messing up relationships, Sonya was finally able to change her approach and mindset when it came to dating which helped her eventually find the man of her dreams and become happily married. You can read more about me here…