Maybe you’re feeling lonely. Perhaps you’re constantly thinking “I want a boyfriend so badly”, but you don’t know where to start.
I’m here to help! I put this list together because I want you to be able to get a boyfriend if you want one so badly. This is a big step in your life and it’s totally okay to need some help!
Not everyone knows how to get a boyfriend so it’s important that you look at these steps:
Figure Out If You’re Ready
- 0.1 Figure Out If You’re Ready
- 0.2 Decide What Type of Relationship You Want
- 0.3 Think About Why You Want a Boyfriend
- 0.4 Think About the Guys You Know
- 0.5 Put Yourself Out There
- 0.6 Ask Your Friends for Advice
- 0.7 Use a Dating App
- 0.8 Start Off Slowly
- 0.9 Learn to Flirt
- 0.10 Get to Know Him
- 1 Conclusion
All too often, people end up rushing into relationships. This obviously is not ideal because they then make mistakes.
Before you start any of these other steps, you should evaluate your situation. Are you ready for a boyfriend? This is a big question that you might not totally understand. You might be thinking “Of course I’m ready! I want a boyfriend so badly!”
In reality, a lot more needs to go into this than you might think. Relationships are a lot of work. Here are a few questions to ask yourself:
- Do I have free time to spend with a boyfriend?
- Am I in a good place emotionally?
- Am I over my previous relationship?
- Why do I want a boyfriend?
If you think that you’re ready for a relationship, go ahead and follow the rest of the steps.
The reason that you should think about it is so that you can make an educated decision. You don’t want to force something that you truly aren’t ready for.
This is especially important if you have just gotten out of a previous relationship. If you’re not over your last boyfriend, you may want to wait. You should also give this a lot of thought if you haven’t had a boyfriend before.
I’m sure you’re eager and excited to get into a relationship, but you should take it slow and make sure that you’re actually ready for it!
Decide What Type of Relationship You Want
Not all relationships are the same. Before you get into a relationship, you should decide what you’re looking for. Do you want to date casually or be in a committed relationship?
There are pros and cons to each type of relationship. If you’ve never been in a relationship, you may not know how to choose.
More committed relationships are nice because you will usually be more serious and steady. Casual relationships are less certain, but you get to relax a bit in the relationship.
You might consider talking to your friends about their past relationships. You could even look at their relationships and see how they were structured.
Once you figure out what type of relationship you want to be in, you will be able to communicate that to any guys you are interested. It’s always good to set your intentions to ensure that you’re both on the same page.
If one of you wants a more casual relationship and the other wants something more serious, he may not be the right guy for you. You could also come up with compromise.
It’s helpful to ensure that you’re both ready for the same type of relationship so that nobody ends up disappointed. Plus, you can then understand where the relationship might be going.
There isn’t a right or wrong answer here. Just make sure you decide what you want to do before you start looking for a boyfriend. It can make the entire process a lot easier!
Think About Why You Want a Boyfriend
Unfortunately, some girls want to get a boyfriend just because they think they need a boyfriend. This may be because all of their friends have boyfriends. It could be because they think they would be happier with a boyfriend.
There are countless reasons out there for wanting a boyfriend. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a boyfriend, but you should try to make sure it’s for the right reasons.
For example, if you’re just trying to replace your ex-boyfriend so you don’t feel lonely anymore, you should probably wait. There’s no point in rushing into a relationship for this reason.
In my experience, the best relationships have come when I’m not seeking a boyfriend. They come when I am focusing on bettering myself and focusing on my contentment. This doesn’t mean that the guys weren’t welcome in my life.
By being happy on my own, I was ready for a boyfriend, but I knew that I was fine on my own without one.
It can also be helpful to think back to your relationship intentions. For example, if you’re looking for something serious, you should take your time and look for the right guy. Rushing into it means that you will be overlooking potentially great guys.
One good idea is to write a list of why you want a boyfriend. Make sure you have some good, legitimate reasons for wanting a boyfriend. Your friends having boyfriends isn’t a great reason, but I understand why you might feel that way.
Think About the Guys You Know
One of the first steps of getting a boyfriend is finding someone to date. There are lots of ways to connect with people and learn more about them.
One of the best ways to find a potential boyfriend is to think about the people you already know. You might have a close guy friend who you have always found attractive.
You can also think about your co-workers, neighbors, and more. You probably know more guys than you realize!
Once you find a guy you might like, you should get to know them. You might know them well enough already so you can skip this step.
You do need to be careful dating guys you are already friends with. If things don’t end well, you might have an awkward friendship afterward.
Put Yourself Out There
If you don’t have a guy friend who you could possibly date, that’s okay! You have lots of other options.
If you’re in high school or college, there are countless guys around your school. Think about the guys in your classes or someone you see often. You will have to initiate a conversation, but it’s easier if the two of you are in the same class.
You can easily get a guy’s number by asking to partner up on a project. You could also ask him questions about the class to start a conversation. Just make sure you aren’t playing dumb or bothering him!
Another idea is to join a club or a team. There are always advertisements and flyers around schools inviting you to join one. At these meetings or practices, you should obviously pay attention to the coach or other leaders.
Still, this is an excellent way to get to know people who live near you. You’ll meet lots of new people in one place!
It’s a great idea to join a club that you are already interested in. By doing this, you are setting up a common interest for you and a potential crush to connect with.
For example, if you like photography, you should join a photography club. You don’t want to join a painting class if you don’t care about painting. Then you would have to awkwardly explain to your potential boyfriend why you joined that class if you don’t even like it.
Ask Your Friends for Advice
Your friends are a great resource when you want to get a boyfriend for a couple of reasons. You shouldn’t take advantage of them. You can ask them for help because that’s what friends are for!
First, you can ask them for advice. Based on your personality, they might be able to give you more specific advice. I can help you out to an extent, but I don’t know you personally.
You should use this advice, but you should also use your best judgment. Unfortunately, some friends feel like they need to offer advice, even if it isn’t very good. You might need to make some changes to the suggestions that they gave you.
Another good way to get help from your friends is to ask them for help finding a guy. Some of your friends might have guy friends who would be a good fit for you. The good thing about asking your friends for advice and suggestions is that they know who you are!
When your friends give you suggestions, you should still take the time to get to know the guy before getting into a relationship. You should be able to trust your friends’ judgment, but you can never be too sure.
It’s nice to date someone who your friends know so that you can all hang out together. This is especially helpful at the beginning of a relationship when you’re getting to know someone.
Use a Dating App
Some people aren’t huge fans of dating apps. Others love them. It all depends on your personality and your experience with them.
Lots of people have good success with dating apps. Maybe you will too!
It’s a good idea to start with just one dating app. You don’t want to join too many and become overwhelmed.
Make sure you’re honest on your dating app profile. You don’t want to lead anyone on due to false information. You wouldn’t want that to happen to you so don’t let it happen to someone else.
Dating apps are a good way to meet guys in your area who share common interests. Depending on the app, you may be able to make matches based on similarities.
When you start talking to a guy, you should be cautious. Unfortunately, some people create fake profiles. When it’s time to meet someone in person, do it in a public area or bring a few friends along for safety.
Start Off Slowly
There’s no need to rush into a relationship. I know it can be exciting when you first start liking someone. You might want to start dating them immediately. It’s important to take it a step at a time though.
I’ve been in your place too. When you start talking to someone and flirting, you are just waiting for them to ask you to be their girlfriend. All of the little things at the beginning of a relationship are fun and exciting!
It’s always best to take things slow though. Spend some time getting to know the guy. Find out what his intentions are in the relationship. Figure out who he is as a person.
If you rush into the relationship, it might end as quickly as it started. You might be dating someone that you don’t really know. Then, once you find out more about him, you might not truly like him.
As hard as it may be, it’s for the best to ease into it. This will prevent any potential mistakes and help you to know what you’re doing in the relationship.
When you take things slow, you will have the opportunity to communicate your relationship goals to your potential boyfriend. Remember that this is the type of relationship you’re interested in, such as casual or more serious.
If the guy seems to be rushing you into a relationship, you should let him know that you want to go slow and do it right. If he seems forceful, he may not be the one for you.
Learn to Flirt
Flirting is an essential piece of the start of any relationship. This is a way to show someone that you’re interested in them. Without flirting or complimenting another person, they may not know that you like them.
If you’ve flirted before, you might have an idea of what works and what doesn’t. Keep in mind that there are no solid rules for flirting because every person is totally unique. It wouldn’t make sense for me to give you specific tips when I don’t know you or the guy.
In general, you can flirt by starting with complimenting the other person. Tell them they’re cute. Point out their eye color or their smile.
Talk about how much you like spending time with them. Focus on making eye contact, giggling, and smiling.
As you talk to the guy more, you might become more comfortable with flirting. You will learn the phrases that are most meaningful to him and what’s less important to say.
How each individual responds to flirting is different. Your crush might like some phrases more than others
Be prepared for flirting to feel a little bit awkward at first. It can be a strange situation for both you and the guy. Trust me though. Both of you will eventually warm up to it and find it to be very useful in your relationship!
Take things slow when it comes to flirting if you want to. It can make flirting easier on you and help you to become more comfortable with flirting.
Get to Know Him
It’s a good idea to get to know the guy before you agree to be his girlfriend. This will help you to truly know the person you’re going to be dating. You wouldn’t want to start dating someone and then find out that they are pretty weird.
If things seem to be moving along quickly, it’s okay to get into a relationship early on. Just make sure you spend a good amount of time asking each other questions and talking about your interests.
This will help you to make connections with each other. You will be able to relate to each other and maybe even find common interests.
You can ask any questions you want to. What usually happens when people get to know each other is they start with simple questions and progress to deeper ones.
Try to ask him questions without making it seem like an interview. You want it to be natural and like you’re truly getting to know him.
Don’t be afraid to let these conversations lead to tangents. It’s totally okay to get off-track and talk about other things. This too will teach you all about him!
Just spend time talking to the guy and learning about who he is. He should do the same to you once you initiate it.
In addition to giving you an opportunity to learn about him, this is a good way to become more comfortable with him. It can help you to get over those nervous jitters at the beginning of a relationship.
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This list was important for me to put together because so many people don’t know what to do when they want to be in a relationship. With this guide, you should be able to make some solid decisions on your next relationship moves.
Having a clear list of steps for getting into a relationship might be just what you need!
A hopeless romantic that struggled for many years to find her Mr “Right” and made all the mistakes you could think of while dating. Known for always choosing the wrong guys or messing up relationships, Sonya was finally able to change her approach and mindset when it came to dating which helped her eventually find the man of her dreams and become happily married. You can read more about me here…