Married Husband Texting Female Friend Or Another Woman (What To Do)

Married Husband Texting Female Friend Or Another Woman (What To Do)

We all see phones as useful and essential devices nowadays. Texting has reinvented the way we all communicate with each other, and it makes life so much easier than it used to. However, texting can be really dangerous for relationships, especially if you or your partner is contacting someone that you shouldn’t be. A lot of the time, because texting doesn’t feel like real life, people can have emotional affairs through their phones. So, this is something to look out for.

I am assuming that’s the reason you are here, reading this article because you could be worried that your husband is having an emotional relationship with another woman. Do you notice that he is always spending time on his phone? Perhaps you have found out that he is constantly speaking to one of his female friends or a woman you’ve never heard of seems to be taking up a lot of his inbox?

Firstly, although phones do give us more opportunities to connect with other people and they could be a gateway to an emotional affair, this is not always the case. So, you don’t need to jump to this conclusion straight away. Hopefully, this article will be able to give you some more insight into what could be possibly going on with your husband, and what you should do.

So, let’s jump straight in and have a look at the reasonings that might be behind the fact your husband is speaking to another woman.

1. They are simply friends.

You have to understand that even though you are married, the two of you should still have individual lives and your friends. Your husband could just be texting his friend and he won’t think it’s a problem, because they are just friends, he won’t see her as ‘another woman’. I’m sure you also text your friends quite a lot and don’t think anything of it, regardless of their gender? So, there is a strong possibility he is just keeping in touch with one of his friends, and he isn’t doing anything wrong. If you have been together for a while, then you will probably be well accustomed to his friends and will have met them before.

An issue will arise if he is speaking to this female friend a lot. Like I have said, it’s pretty normal for us all to text our friends regularly, some people even speak to their friends daily. However, if he is texting with her more than he is texting with you, this could be a little bit of a red flag. Why does he need to speak to her constantly? People that are just friends don’t need to do that.

You might also be worried if he isn’t being honest about speaking with her. If he is just speaking to one of his friends, then you might question why he is being so secretive about it. It is completely valid for you to feel concerned if he is lying about speaking to her because if he just saw their relationship as platonic, he would be honest.

2. He has to speak to another woman because of work.

Work can also take over our personal lives, especially if your husband has a high up position, needs to be on call all the time or has his own business. One of the people that he might need to be in touch with at work could be a woman. This could mean that he has to speak to another woman constantly, but he isn’t doing anything wrong. He might also not have a choice about being in touch with this woman, at the end of the day it’s his job and he has to do what he needs to do. If nothing is going on between them, then he won’t hide their communication from you. He will also probably understand when his work life is crossing over into his personal life with you and will manage it properly.

There is no problem with this, as long as the relationship between him and the other woman stays strictly business. Unfortunately, if it does turn into something more it might be difficult for you to find out, especially if he has a work cell phone. But once again, if he isn’t being honest about his contact with her, then it could be suspicious. She’s just a work colleague so why is he hiding their texts?

3. A woman is constantly trying to text him.

Your husband might just be responding to a woman that is constantly texting him. He could be completely innocent in the act of speaking to another woman. Even if she is trying to pursue him, he might not realize. Men don’t normally have the intuition to clock on to things like this, and he might just think that this woman is being friendly or needs his advice.

He might hide these texts from you if he is worried that you will think something is going on, but normally in this kind of situation, your husband will be open with you because he thinks nothing of it. Of course, as women, we understand other women and we can tell when someone is coming on to our partners. However, your partner isn’t really to blame in this kind of situation, unless he reciprocates the tone of her texts.

4. He is having an emotional or sexual affair.

Of course, this is the last thing you want to hear, but it might just be true.

If your husband is spending a lot longer on his phone than usual, it could be because another woman is occupying his mind and his time. This could be happening with a friend who has transitioned into more than just that, or he could have met someone new. Whatever the circumstances, he will spend a lot more time texting now he is interested in someone else. The difficult thing to comprehend in this situation is that he could be having an emotional affair without even realizing he is doing it.

A lot of the time, we only think of cheating as physical and sexual activity, but it is so much more than that. An emotional affair can hurt more than if your husband went and had a one-night stand because the difference is that his emotions are well and truly involved with someone else. He feels things for this other woman and tells her things he doesn’t tell you. This is a really painful thing to come to terms with.

There are many ways that you can check to see if it’s true that your husband is having an emotional or sexual affair with someone but, to be honest with you, you will be able to feel it in your gut.

Some of the other ways you might be able to tell that your husband is having an affair in relation to texting are:

  • He is overly protective of his phone.
  • He deletes all traces of calls or texts from his phone.
  • He answers calls away from you or declines incoming calls when you are around.
  • He hides to spend time on his phone.

None of these signs would be true if he was just speaking to a female friend, because he would have nothing to hide.

What should you do when your husband is speaking to another woman?

What you should do really depends on which of the situations you think your husband is in from the ones I have mentioned above. Therefore, I urge you to really think about the specific situation you find him in and then act accordingly to it. We will look later on at how to act concerning specific situations, but the first thing you should do, which is essential to whatever situation you are in, is to talk to him. Communication is such a crucial part of a marriage, and it can really make or break it.

Communicate with him. 

As women, we sometimes presume that men are the same as us in many ways, but they are not. They are not going to read our minds or understand the situation until we spell it out for them. Also, women can be quick to jump to conclusions, especially when it comes to the men in our lives and their unfaithfulness. This is especially true if you have been cheated on before or have had difficult relationships in the past.

When you do choose to talk to your husband about what’s going on, you need to make sure that you confront him in a way that is not aggressive. Make sure you don’t lay any blame on him or accuse him. No one reacts positively or honestly when they have already been accused of something without the opportunity to defend themselves.

If you have any problems with another woman and your man speaking to each other, you can simply tell him how it makes you feel. He might not have even realized it was affecting you, and he might stop texting her as much.

If you suspect that he is cheating on you and he isn’t being honest, you might need to put more effort into soothing him into being open with you. People only tell the truth when they feel comfortable, so make him feel comfortable and speak to him from the heart.

At the end of the day, if you are in a marriage that you can’t communicate in, there is something wrong already.

What should you do when your husband is texting his female friend?

Firstly, if they are simply just friends then he will probably open with you about them speaking with each other. Friends are really important, and you need to let him know that you understand that. Your friends are also his friends, so you should say that you understand him wanting to speak to her.

However, if you feel like he is texting her too often, you could ask him how he would feel if you were speaking to one of your male friends more than you spoke to him. The answer will probably be that he wouldn’t be happy about it, and then he might realize your point of view. You need to make sure you aren’t coming across controlling, so make sure you tell him how much you admire his friendship and appreciate that you are in a relationship with a caring and loving man.

If you suspect that something is going on between them, you could always suggest the three of you meeting up in person to see if they act strangely around each other or you feel any energy between them in person.

What should you do if he has to speak to another woman because of work?

There isn’t really much you can do about this one, because it’s his job. However, you could simply ask him to try and balance his personal home life better with his work life. If his work makes you feel like a second-class citizen to him, tell him that. He might not have realized that texting or calling constantly to his work colleague was affecting you that much.

If you suspect something is going on between them that is more than strictly business, why not drop into the office and see if you notice that they are particularly close or doing something they shouldn’t be.

What should you do if a woman is constantly trying to text him?

The only thing you need to do here is to make him recognize what’s going on and what she wants from him. As I said earlier, he might not have realized what she was really trying to get at. I’m sure pointing out the fact that she is trying to come onto him will make him shut it down straight away.

What should you do if he is having an emotional or sexual affair?

This is completely up to you. I’m sorry if you wanted a more definitive answer, but when it comes to cheating, it always depends where your boundaries lie. Perhaps you will be able to work on your marriage and move on, or you will have to leave him. Whatever you decide to do, make sure that you find proof that he is having an affair before you confront him.

Conclusion

I sincerely hope that this article will have helped you figure out why your husband is texting another woman and what action you should take in relation to it.

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