Husband Doesn’t Respect Me: What You Should Do
Do you feel like your husband doesn’t respect you? Are you confused as to why he doesn’t respect you? Your husband might not respect you because of something you have done that you’re not aware of or because of his personality.
Hopefully in this blog post, I will be able to help you determine which it is and what you should do to turn this around so that you feel respected once more.Click to replace anchor text.
He Is Selfish
Being selfish isn’t something that people are born with; it is a trait that is learned. For example, if your husband was brought up with minimal rules such as not having a curfew or not having to do his homework then he will not appreciate or respect many rules. He may feel that he can do whatever he pleases and so when you get upset about something he has done, he will blame you rather than his own behavior. If your husband is selfish then it is rare that he will show respect for anyone.
He Is Manipulative
I have a friend who has a highly manipulative husband and when he is in a good mood and happy, he is a really fun person to be around but when he is angry or upset then it is a whole different story. I am used to my friend texting me saying that they have had another fight and that he has kicked her out even though it is her home too. These arguments are very silly with the last one being about my friend asking him not to wind her up in the morning after she comes home from 12 hour night shifts. Somehow a fight broke out, he ended up at her mums house with her all her things dumped in the front yard and him telling her to find a lawyer if she wants to see the dogs. About a week later he called her at 6am after a night out and now they are back together!
He Is Reactive
If your husband tends to overly react to little things then it is more than likely he will become easily disrespectful. He may be used to an easy life where his parents or old partner let him get away with most things which meant he never learnt how to deal with his reactions when he was refused something or done something wrong. Because of this, you may find that when you refuse him something or tell him that something he does upsets you then he may blow up with the worst words coming out of his mouth.
It Could Be You
Now that I have covered some traits that your husband might have that makes him not have respect for you, you also need to consider whether there are some things you are doing that may cause him to disrespect you. You can do something about these things to hopefully get him to start respecting you again and make you stronger as a couple.
Don’t Think You’re Always Right
If you think that you’re always right and always have your own way then this can takes its toll on your husband and cause him to lose some respect for you. Just because he may want to go about something differently doesn’t mean it’s the wrong way. If you’re like this then you need to learn to let go of the control and share it.
Don’t Put Others Before Him
You may not realize it but you are disrespecting your husband if you put others before him which will lead him to lose respect for you. For example, if you planned to go out on Friday with your husband for a nice meal but then you cancel because your friends want to go out… this is putting your friends before your husband. If you regularly put others before your husband then it can lead him to lose respect for you because he feels you don’t respect him.
Don’t Forget That He Is A Man
This may sound like a bit of a silly one but if you will be surprised once you realize that you may be doing this. We all need our girly time without girlfriends so if you don’t regularly see your girlfriends or you lost in touch with them a number of years ago then you will undoubtedly turn to your husband. Treating your husband like he is your girlfriend however isn’t going to get his respect.
Don’t Dishonor Him
If there is one sure way to lose the respect of your husband it is nagging and corrected him in public and in particular, his friends. If you tend to do this regularly then his friends will undoubtedly pick up on this and will tease him about it which will lead him to possibly even resenting you for it.
Don’t Think He Is Your Past Cheating Partners
You cannot have someone’s respect if you don’t give them the same. I know it can hurt deeply if you have been hurt in the past by a cheating father or cheating boyfriend/husband but you must not put this onto your husband. The only way you can earn his respect is if you give him the same and trust in him. Everyone is different which means you should never assume that he will cheat just because he is a man.
Don’t Make Him Become Defensive
Sometimes the best thing to do is to keep your lips sealed and not say anything to avoid putting your husband on a defensive. For example, if you’re on a road trip and get lost don’t tell him “you’ve gotten us lost haven’t you” as this does not help the situation and will only cause friction between you both. Before saying anything, ask yourself whether it will help. If it does not, keep your lips sealed.
Never User Sex As A Bargaining Tool
One of the worst things you can do is to use sex as a bargaining tool as not only does this lose all romance but you also disrespect yourself. An example of someone using sex as a bargaining tool would be if they were to say to their husband “if you fix that washing machine for me then you’ll get sex tonight”.