Trust is no doubt an important factor in a relationship. It is what forms the basis and allows the two involved to grow the relationship. If the foundations of what they have are laid on trust then they have a good chance to make it work. So, you should learn how to trust your boyfriend.
Where there’s no trust between the two, it limits the relationship, causing it to slow down in progress. Due to the importance of trust, you have to find ways to be able to trust each other.
As a result of the fact you do not trust your boyfriend; he might stop trying to prove himself, causing a wider rift for the two of you. Lack of trust is probably the leading cause of splits in relationships all around the world.
QUIT CALLING HIM WHEN HE’S WITH HIS FRIENDS
- 0.1 QUIT CALLING HIM WHEN HE’S WITH HIS FRIENDS
- 0.2 QUIT ASKING TOO MANY QUESTIONS
- 0.3 SHOW RESPECT FOR HIS PRIVACY
- 0.4 TALK THINGS OUT
- 0.5 GET HIM TO EXPLAIN BEFORE BLOWING UP
- 0.6 BELIEVE WHAT HE SAYS
- 0.7 LET GO OF THE PAST
- 0.8 HAVE FAITH THAT THINGS WILL WORK OUT FINE
- 0.9 LOVE WILL FIND A WAY
- 1 FINAL THOUGHTS
A girl can allow the boyfriend to go out on an evening with friends, but then spoil it when she keeps monitoring his moves. She wants to know where he is, what he’s up to, and who’s with him at all times. Only trust that your boyfriend will let you know where he is and who he’s with without pushing him to do so. He deserves to have fun so don't get in the way with mistrust. Making numerous calls to your guy when out with friends might raise questions from them too. Have you noticed that people are more likely to be trustworthy when you show them you trust them? It’s the same with your guy and so make no mistake of stalking him when out with his friends. Instead, find yourself something fun to do as well.
QUIT ASKING TOO MANY QUESTIONS
It doesn’t help to want to know what he does every second of the day. It’s almost like an attempt to cut off his air supply and no doubt your guy will not like that at all. Would you imagine having to explain your every move to someone else? I can't begin to imagine that. Spare yourself the trouble to have him explain all that he does but settle for what he volunteers to you at the end of the day. That’s unless you have reason to believe there’s something he’s doing behind your back and need to get clarification about the same.
SHOW RESPECT FOR HIS PRIVACY
When it comes to privacy issues, this is one place where the saying…do unto others, comes in handy. Am sure you’d hate to walk in on your boyfriend going through your phone. Why do you imagine he does not mind you doing it too? Take note of the fact that being together does not in any way curtail the freedom each one of you has to get on with personal life. You may be answerable for what you do but to a certain degree require having a degree of privacy.
TALK THINGS OUT
Nothing communicates respect to a guy than hearing you air out your concerns by talking to him about things. You value his input that is why you involve him with details about issues. It could be something that bothers you or even plans that you have. Whatever the case take time to talk things over with him. Perhaps you might have noticed something is amiss with him. Instead of rushing to conclusions invite him to tell you about it and offer solutions on the issue. Let your guy know you are there for him, no matter what might be going on.
GET HIM TO EXPLAIN BEFORE BLOWING UP
You’ve seen the picture and your guy appears to be over the moon from what the girl with him has said to him. Your first reaction is to get mad, without first getting an explanation from him. Already you have judged him, before even knowing who the girl is and why they seem so happy together with your guy. This is the wrong way for you to take even though you suspect something sinister is going on. It is better if you calm down first, then request an explanation who the girl is from your guy.
BELIEVE WHAT HE SAYS
After explaining to you what the picture with the girl is all about you have a choice either to believe your guy or not. Remember that your reaction lays the ground for him to open up to you or not in future instances. Believe what he tells you unless you have evidence he’s lying to you. You love him so much you trust that he knows what’s best for you both. Go on; let him know so he can determine to be honest with you henceforth.
LET GO OF THE PAST
At times people are unable to separate their past from the present. In case you’ve been cheated on before, do not get into a relationship expecting the same to happen again. Remember what you expect is likely to happen to you with time. Rather, quit dwelling on the past and give the present a chance. Your boyfriend is a different person and deserves the chance to prove himself to you. If you lump him together with the ex who took off with your girlfriend, leaving you heartbroken you do him the disservice. Instead, why don’t you let him be himself, see if you like the man he is?
HAVE FAITH THAT THINGS WILL WORK OUT FINE
Things always do if you can find it in yourself to believe it. They will work out for you and your partner but first, you need to show that you believe it. The way you react to issues is a good place to begin, just as are the things you say to your boyfriend especially when you’re angry. You probably know that what you believe in will most definitely take place in your life. It includes the faith that you have in your boyfriend for things to work out between you two. Don’t let him miss out in knowing you have faith in him.
LOVE WILL FIND A WAY
The fact that you’re together with your boyfriend means you have a chance together. Ultimately, if you were meant to be the love you possess will no doubt find a way to remain in you both. Assuming you are seeing each other and are well advanced in the feelings department. You communicate trust to your boyfriend when you allow nature to take control instead of attempting to do it yourself. Love is best if it happens naturally without either party feeling coerced to love the other. Trust that this is the case for you and him.
There are many ways to trust your boyfriend all of which involve the desire for there to be openness and transparency between you both. Find ways to make your boyfriend know you trust him and you pave the way to a great future.
Indeed trust is the oil that feeds the engine of love. There can be no perfect love if partners do not express their trust in each other. Instead, the relationship will be ridden with all manner of false accusations and attempts to exonerate yourselves from blame.
Trusting your boyfriend first begins with you as you have to be well balanced in your emotions. This will avoid them going berserk, therefore, wreaking havoc to the relationship you so look forward to having with your guy. Or, already have.
As a pragmatic woman, Roxana didn't focus much on the matters of heart until falling head over hills for the wrong guy. After a devastating relationship, she studied the dynamics of dating and man's behavior to understand what went wrong. Her path drifted from science to letters, with the aim to share her knowledge with other women in need. She is now a contributor to Her Aspiration.