Are you worried about your husband and your marriage to him? Are you suspecting he is having affairs online via the internet? Have you been looking for how to find your husband on dating sites? If you answered yes to any of these, then it is good news that you are reading this.
But before we go into business, I should inform you that my reason for writing this is not to be misinterpreted as a means to break your home but rather, as one to build it. This I believe, is to give you proof and to help you communicate better with your husband.
What are dating Sites and why should my husband be there?
- 0.1 What are dating Sites and why should my husband be there?
- 0.2 How do I find him on dating sites?
- 0.2.1 Check the browser history of his computer
- 0.2.2 Enter the URL of the dating site found in the browser history
- 0.2.3 Email search
- 0.2.4 Create a pseudo account
- 0.2.5 Make use of a monitoring program on his computer
- 0.2.6 Snooping around his phone
- 0.2.7 Hiring a licensed private investigator
- 0.2.8 Search online for possible profiles
- 0.2.9 Physical Confrontation
- 1 Conclusion
Dating sites are platforms that allows individuals across different locations to find and interact with one another through the internet with the aim of developing a personal, sexual, or romantic relationship.
From the definition above, dating sites should be for individuals who are yet to be married, what then is your husband looking for there? You see, most times, married men join dating apps because of the dissatisfaction they get from you, their wives, in bed. Here are other reasons men visit dating sites
This implies that if you get to find your husband on a dating site, the bulk of the work is yours to do in other not to lose your husband and marriage.
How do I find him on dating sites?
Before you embark on this journey, I need remind you that you must be extremely smart and cautious so as to not get caught snooping around. If he catches you once, there is every likelihood you would not have a second chance to carry out your investigation. Follow the steps below to find out if your husband has a dating account or not.
Check the browser history of his computer
This should be your first point of check as it does not require any technical know how. At first, you would need to have access to his system and you should now his password. If you do not know his password, you can ask stylishly with the pretense that you want to make use of his laptop for work purposes.
It is either he reveals this or not. If he does not oblige, it is more evidence that he is trying to keep something away from you. Once you gain access, you should go straight to his browser or browsers. Go to option and tools which is usually at the top of the page. Upon clicking on this tab, you would find the history icon, click on it and it would display all the websites he has visited recently.
Look through all these websites for any dating site. If you are not so sure, you can write down any strange website and visit it later. If you are sure the website(s) is a dating site, it means he is most likely a member there. You still need to do further search as he might just have visited the website and is yet to become a member.
Enter the URL of the dating site found in the browser history
Having found a dating website on his browsers history, you can take a step further by visiting the sites. Most of the time, you might need his login in details. But if his password is saved already, you are a lucky person.
More so, there are tools that these kinds of sites provide that can be employed to filter your search, helping you to narrow down your husband by describing his kind of person and the things he likes. It would bring out options and if your description is right, you would see your husband’s profile among the options. Unless of course, he filled in different details.
This is a very certain way of finding out if your husband is on a dating site(s). however, you need to find out if it is legal to snoop around one’s mailbox with permission. If it is illegal, do not cross that line out of desperation. Let it go or try another means.
If it is safe, then you can look through his inbox or spam. The idea behind this is that before registration on these sites can be completed successfully, one needs a working mail for verification purposes. So, you just must look intently and patiently for a message that is related to that. If you find one, open it, you would see his username and some other details that can be used to track him. If you do not see any such email, then we might have to go for an alternative.
Go to the dating site, to the login section, insert his email address in the username/email section and click on log in. If a command that says ‘wrong password’ pops up, that means he has an account. You could also use the ‘forget password’ icon which would mean that a message would be sent to his mail. You must be smart here. If you are want to get a mail for a password reset, you better have his phone with you also so it can be deleted once it pops up.
Create a pseudo account
If you are certain of his username or email address, the next step is for you to create an account. I call it a ‘pseudo account’. The essence of the account is to find out exactly what your husband is looking for on such platform.
Your profile should be a replica of what your husband truly likes. By this I mean, the kind of woman, either busty, fair, or dark, tall, or short, etc. The idea is to tempt him to chat you up. This is a very intricate way of getting through to your husband. So, you must be smart enough not to leave any clue whatsoever for your partner to figure out you are the one on the other end. Every single detail must be abstract. You can search for your partner’s likes and dislikes on his profile and use it to create your profile
More so, you must be careful enough not to fall victim to what you are trying to solve. Creating a fake profile usually means creating a perfect profile and most times, it gets to attract more people than a real profile. So, just incase, you have so many potential suitors knocking on the door, you must control your self enough by keeping your eyes on the ball.
Make use of a monitoring program on his computer
All thanks to technology, you can now monitor what a computer user does or is doing by installing a computer monitoring program. This requires that you are very smart as the only way you can achieve optimal result is by making sure your husband does not find the program on his system. You can hide it within desktop icons, somewhere around the middle or you just make it a background app.
For it to work, remember it has to be running which is where the difficulty comes up. However, it can be used to record emails, chat, emails etc. You most likely would not have issue installing the program as it requires the same procedure needed to install other software. If you don’t have basic knowledge of how to install a program, you can hire an I.T. guy to get it done.
Snooping around his phone
This is a very straightforward way to finding out the truth about your husband. You just need to get his phone, look around for online dating apps. Most times, apps on the phone do not need any log in detail as the details are usually saved. If there are no apps, you can view their browsers, and visit his history page.
The difficulty with this method is that you must not be caught snooping around his phone. He is going to take it hard on you. The best thing to do is to politely ask for his phone on the pretense of making a call or something. You must have orchestrated a smooth plan with appropriate response. Be sure to know how to operate his phone if not, take out time to learn how to before hand. You can also look through his mailbox on his phone just in case you find nothing.
Hiring a licensed private investigator
This is a very industrious and much effective option. If you are not able to do all that has been listed above maybe because you feel you might be sloppy, it is advisable you hire a private investigation. Go for a registered and professional private investigator.
These individuals charge certain amount of money and depending on how good, it could be quite expensive. If you are sure your husband is hiding something, then it is worth the while. if not, it is not too late to turn back now.
Private investigators have access to more databases and resources that you would ever have. They can also have what it takes to scan browsing histories and emails. Although, they might be able to go quite a length to find answers, they would definitely not go hacking into your husband’s phones and computers as it is punishable by the law.
Search online for possible profiles
You can put on random searches on google to find if your husband is on a dating site. Input his names or nicknames and keep on accessing the results. Here, you are looking for his profile on dating sites. Better still, you can use his picture to search for him. Watch this video for how to search using his picture
This should be the last thing you should do. If you find something out, you must confront him. You guys would have to sit down and talk about the whole issue. If you did not find any clue also, and you still feel he has something he his hiding from you, maybe it is high time you confronted him. In confronting you must take certain things into consideration. They include:
- Communicate with your husband in a very calm and respectable way. Do not shout or nag or call him names. Remember he is still your husband. More so, if you want to him to continue in the conversation, you need to show him all the respect you can. Watch this for more information.
- Acting like you have some evidences of his involvement in online dating will bolster him to talk to you even if you have nothing. Do not approach him assertively. You can approach him by saying, ‘dear, I stumbled on a dating site on your laptop, do you have any involvement in it? I really want you to be sincere with me about this’. This way, you make him want to trust you and he most likely would be truthful about it. If he denies it and you have evidences, just show him. If you do not have evidences, you can just end the whole thing there and ask that he does not engage in stuffs like that. I would advise that you do not go further digging.
- If he admits, you need to determine his reasons for indulging in it as that is the source of the problem. If you are the cause, you need to work more on satisfying him sexually or whatever the reason might be. You need to be take responsibility for your actions. Let him know he was wrong to not have confided in you. If there is a need to see a counsellor together please do not hesitate. In all, you should handle the issue with the aim to save the marriage. Click here to know more on how to handle the issue.
You should be extremely careful when carrying out the steps listed above being that you would not want to cause more havoc to your marriage. Ensure you do nothing illegal and remember, no matter the outcome, the aim is to save your marriage. Communication, acceptance of fault and a desire to make things right would do the job well.
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A hopeless romantic that struggled for many years to find her Mr “Right” and made all the mistakes you could think of while dating. Known for always choosing the wrong guys or messing up relationships, Sonya was finally able to change her approach and mindset when it came to dating which helped her eventually find the man of her dreams and become happily married. You can read more about me here…