Dear friend visiting my blog, you’re probably here because you can’t find fulfillment in your love life. Perhaps you like someone, but he hasn’t approached you yet. And right now the question popping in your head is: does he like me?
Before jumping to conclusions and assuming he doesn’t like you, read my guide to the male body language and find out which signs to look for to understand if he teases or if he likes you.
Male Body Language – Does It Matter?
- 1 Male Body Language – Does It Matter?
- 2 Does He Like Me? Common Body Language Signs
- 3 Does He Like Me? Common Gestures To Look For
- 4 Does He Like Me? Signs That He Doesn’t
- 5 Does He Like Me? Sings To Tell If He’s In Love
- 6 Bottom Line
Let’s be honest for a moment. We women claim to be independent but in the end, we’re desperately and unconsciously looking for the right man. It doesn’t even have to be a prince in shiny armor. More often than not, we just settle for a kind soul who sends a simple message of good morning or good night.
The real problem strikes when you’ve met someone that YOU like but he acts indifferent. You crave for him to approach you but he doesn’t even seem to see you are there.
Now, the problem with men is that they rarely show their feelings right from the start. Yes, there is the bold type who would come and introduce himself, but these men are rare. If you have to deal with the shier type, understanding whether or not he likes you is a matter of correctly interpreting his body language.
Knowing how to detect the unmistakable signs of commitment is also useful when you've dated someone for a while but he never made your relationship formal.
In such a case, determining whether or not he likes you can help you decide if it’s worth investing time and energy in a relationship or if you’d better move on.
According to psychologists, it takes between 90 seconds and 4 minutes to understand if he truly likes you. And he doesn’t even have to speak. So, “Does he like me”? Here are the signs to look for.
Does He Like Me? Common Body Language Signs
Knowing how to interpret the male body language allows you to understand which are the true intentions of the one in front of you. Whether you met on an online dating site or in a pub, the signs to look for are the same.
I’m not talking about him sending you virtual winks on your favorite dating platform. If you two have met and he’s winked at you, it may be one of the first signals that he likes you.
In the male body language winking is a sort of workhorse that men use as a channel for sending a first eloquent message which corresponds to “I noticed you”.
Understanding the look of a man is easier than it seems. If you notice that he can’t get his eyes off of you, he probably likes you. Now, don’t expect for him to stare at you. That would be rude or you could mistake him for a psycho. But just pay attention to those looks that take less than a fraction of a second yet repeat themselves over and over again.
But the looks story takes a whole different turn if you’ve been introduced. If you’re actually speaking to him and your guy seems enchanted at gazing at you, he’s definitely interested.
If other signs add up to a fixed gaze, such as raised eyebrows or enlarged nostrils, then he’s probably completely in love.
The eyes are a gateway to the soul, so pay close attention to the changes in the size of his pupil. Dilated pupils designate curiosity and express great physical interest. However, dilated pupils might also mean he only wants to hook up.
His face can give a clear answer to your “does he like me” question. When a man is attracted to a woman, he’ll nervously touch his lips, cheeks, ears, or chin. This denotes the desired to be kissed and may be a clear indicator his into you.
The smile is one of the primordial signs of attraction. So if you’re talking and he’s smiling, that’s another positive indicator that he likes you.
A man interested in a one-night stand alone may lack a courtesy smile even if he’s kind.
Okay, his voice may not be exactly a body language sign but it still helps you figure out what’s his interest.
If you notice that he’s raising the tone of his voice, it means he wants to communicate clearly and establish an exclusive channel with you.
From top to bottom, what he does with his limbs communicates his intentions sound and clear. Observe, for example, his legs. If they are crossed he might not be interested in you, as crossed legs symbolize an attitude of closure. On the contrary, if they are open and well planted on the ground, it means he wants to draw your attention.
Likewise, crossed arms communicate closure while open arms may communicate interest. However, observing the arms is trickier. Some people just feel comfortable sitting with their arms closed even when they are interested in someone.
But if the arms are tricky to understand, the hands can give you a clearer picture. If he puts his hands in his pockets or behind his head, it means he’s comfortable around you, which is a clear sign he likes you.
If he plays with circular objects, such as a glass or a small ball, it means he’s physically attracted but not necessarily interested in more than a one night stand.
Then, there is also the language of the feet. If he’s pointing his feet towards you, it means he’s attracted to you.
A man interested in the woman in front of him tends to sit straight and with his back upright, pushing his chest forward.
Does He Like Me? Common Gestures To Look For
Besides the body signs above, you can also look for common gestures that tell you whether or not you’ve drawn his attention.
He’s touching his hair
This gesture is common for both men and women. Just like you touch his hair when he is around, he touches his hair too when he’s around you – if he truly is interested, that is.
However, some men also touch their hair because they like the sensation of it. The best way to tell which is the case is by observing his behavior with the others, especially when he’s talking to other men.
He’s touching his beard
When a man touches his beard when talking to you it means he’s becoming unconsciously aware of how beautiful you are.
He’s touching his ear
In the male body language, touching the ear when in the company of a woman means an inhibited sexual drive. This is a good thing as it shows he doesn’t want to speed things, so he’s probably really interested.
He’s touching his lips
If he’s constantly touching his lips, either with his fingers or with his tongue, it’s a clear indicator that he likes you.
He’s touching his neck
A clear indicator of arousal. If he’s touching his neck when you’re around, he just can’t wait to see you naked.
He’s touching his crotch
As awkward as it may sound, this is the highest form of attraction a man can show. Oftentimes this is an unconscious gesture but it doesn’t mean he wants to marry you. It just means he finds you sexually interesting.
He looks at your mouth
Now my dear, if a man looks at your lips the signal is clear. He wants to kiss you. So just wait for the moment to happen.
He’s playing with his tie
If you see him playing with his tie just imagine he’s playing with his most intimate parts. This sign means a strong sexual attraction.
Another thing to observe is the way he walks. If he walks side by side, opens the door for you and lets you walk in front of him, he likes you. If he tries to walk in front of you, he’s just trying to exhibit himself in front of the others.
Does He Like Me? Signs That He Doesn’t
All signs above are clear indicators that he likes, or at least has an interest in you. But if you’re dealing with an extremely shy man, these signs could be harder if not impossible to observe. So, how to tell if he’s just shy or if he doesn’t like you? Here’s what to look for.
He’s touching his nose
The nose is the center of dislike, so if he’s repeatedly scratching his nose while you’re talking, he’s probably not interested. However, this gesture could be triggered by a subject that is causing tension.
He’s scratching his head
Another sign that he doesn’t like you or that something is making the situation uncomfortable for him.
He’s biting his nails
Just like the two signs above, it just means that he doesn’t like you.
He doesn’t look you in the eyes
I already told you all about the looks in the paragraphs above. He has to stare. If he doesn’t, he’s probably not interested.
Does He Like Me? Sings To Tell If He’s In Love
By now you know whether or not he likes you. If you’ve discovered that he does, and if you’re really comfortable around him, how to tell if he just likes or actually loves you? Here’s what to look for.
Check Out The Way He Looks At You
The look of a man in love is unmistakable. If he looks straight into your eyes both when he speaks and when he listens, he’s probably in love with you.
He Is Always There
A man in love wants to be with you 24/7 and even when he’s not around, he makes his presence felt. If he sends you a text while you’re at work just to tell you he’s been thinking of you, he’s in love.
He Listens To You
If the man you’re dating loves you, he’s more than just a date. He’s acting like your best friend and always listens to what you have to say.
He Is Considerate
If your man pays attention to your behavior, learns what you like and what you dislike, surprises you with little things and acts impeccably in front of your friends and family, he’s desperately in love with you.
Now you should be able to tell whether or not he likes you. But just a piece of advice if he doesn’t. The world is full of wonderful people and it’s useless to waste your time and energy on someone who’ll never look at you in the way that you want.
If he doesn’t like you, move on. Get out there, have fun, make new friends, and don’t focus too much on dating. Sooner or later, you’ll just meet the man of your dreams.
Or, if you’re desperately in need of a kind word and a kiss, even if you know it will probably not going to last, try online dating. This versatile way of meeting people will help you connect with other singles looking for the same thing as you do.
But regardless your choice, just remember that you’re worth much more than a scarce look from a man who doesn’t deserve you. Believe in yourself, get out there and conquer the world.
As a pragmatic woman, Roxana didn't focus much on the matters of heart until falling head over hills for the wrong guy. After a devastating relationship, she studied the dynamics of dating and man's behavior to understand what went wrong. Her path drifted from science to letters, with the aim to share her knowledge with other women in need. She is now a contributor to Her Aspiration.